6 Things You Should Know Before Dating a Woman with a Big Heart and an Overthinking Mind

6 Things You Should Know Before Dating a Woman with a Big Heart and an Overthinking Mind

People don’t know how hard overthinkers have it. They’ll often be told, “It’s all in your head,” “Stop worrying too much,” “Snap out of it,” as if there’s a switch to flip whenever the mind needs to be shut down. Overthinkers can’t help it. This problem sometimes overlaps with anxiety, and they need as much support and love as they can get. [1] These relentlessly unsettling thoughts could be caused by anything from your trip to the coffee shop to your final degree exams at school or your big break presentation at work. 

It’s different for women because we are typically more emotional. An overthinking woman with a big heart is an angelic being who always wants everything to turn out okay. She worries about problems before they arise and it can be quite limiting. However, she loves effortlessly and just needs someone who understands her fragile frame of mind.

People tend to avoid overthinkers when choosing partners, but when they have a genuinely good heart, they are some of the amazing souls you could come across. 

If you are going to be with her, you need to love her and treat her gently like the jewel she is. Here are 6 things you need to know before committing to a woman with a big heart and an overthinking mind: [2]

She wants her life to be simple

A woman who overthinks everything would crave simplicity like a thirst she needs to quench daily. She doesn’t engage herself in several activities and commitments because she likes to know how everything will turn out each day. She wants to go to bed and not worry about how she’ll face the next day. She wants to face a problem and come up with an immediate solution. Things won’t always be easy, but she tries to make them so. She prefers to live a simple and straightforward life. She needs someone who shares the same visions and would not bring complexity or more uncertainties into her life.

Be prepared. She’ll be difficult sometimes

She never intends to cause any stress, but she just can’t help it. It’s going to be occasionally tough to get through to her and reassure her that everything’s going to work out for good, especially when all the signs are blaring red. She’d worry about everything and everyone because her heart has that much room. However, she wants you to be her rock in trying times. She wants to hold onto you while she collects her emotions and sorts her thoughts.

She’s in for the long haul, the real deal

She doesn’t do casual relationships that only last until one partner gets tired of the other. If you’re going to be with her, it must be an intensely passionate union all the way. She wants someone who will add value to her life and help her grow. She wants to be a part of your life too. She needs commitment and seriousness, not a time-wasting relationship.

She’s an awesome listener

Overthinkers always want people to listen to them and help them organize their thoughts. In the same way, they listen to people because they can’t help it, especially when they have a genuinely kind heart. They want to be involved in your life and to help out however they can. They want to hear your story and offer the best advice, often telling you that they’d do if they were in your current situation.

Her overthinking is a defense mechanism

She subconsciously tries to protect herself from adversities and disappointments by thinking out every detail and worrying incessantly. It can cause her to occasionally break down and land in a fragile mental state.

At this point, all she needs is love, gentle affection, and care. Hold her in your arms, kiss her, whisper in her ear, and let her know that everything is going to be okay.

She appreciates the little efforts

Her big heart chimes with gladness at the smallest gesture of love and affection. She’s elated when you leave her a sweet note in the morning. She loves those cute messages that reassure her of your love. She appreciates your fidelity and loves that you trust her as well. She loves that you’d put in the effort to make special candlelight dinners and patio breakfasts for her. She enjoys walking in the wind on an autumn evening with you. Her heart craves romance and protection and she’s grateful that you’re always there.

Love her, protect her, reassure her, and she’d be yours forever.


  1. 10 Signs You’re an Overthinker.” Inc. Amy Morin. Retrieved August 31, 2020.
  2. 9 Things To Know About Dating An Over-Thinker.” Bustle. Christine Schoenwald. Retrieved August 31, 2020.