If You Have an Elder Sister, Here Are 10 Reasons Why You Should Always Count Your Blessings
“Side by side or miles apart, we are sisters connected by the heart,” – Anonymous
This fact isn’t just for ladies. Anyone who has an elder sister should walk with their heads held high and their chests jutting forward. Want to know why? It’s because you’ve got a soldier, a power-pack that would go to the ends of the earth to keep you safe. I know because I’ve got one, and I’m an elder sister myself.
My big sister and I are literally two people in one. She’s my best friend and confidant, a second mother to me. Her three-year-old daughter sometimes gets confused about who to call Mom. One of my earliest memories of her powerful love for me was when I was 10 and she was 15. We were on vacation from school, and my sister had been looking forward to a movie date with this boy she liked. Two days to her scheduled date, I was throwing stones at a huge ‘X’ sign hung on our neighbor’s pine tree, across his parked Audi. I’d played that game for a long time and it was an ecstatic feeling each time I hit the X. One day, I was unlucky. One stone hit the neighbor’s car and shattered the front seat window. I’d never known fear so powerful before in my life.
I’d ruined a car, and it didn’t even belong to us. My sister ran outside and saw me nearly hyperventilating. I was convinced the mean neighbor would have me arrested and thrown in prison for life. Long story cut short, my sister took the fall for it. When the adults came around, she insisted she’d been throwing the stones and hadn’t meant for it to happen. Even though my parents knew she was lying, they punished her in my place, grounding her for the rest of the holiday. They scraped funds and paid for the repair, but they took away her holiday allowances. She missed her date and I felt deeply guilty and terrible, but my sister never blamed me for the misfortune. She was happy staying at home, playing scrabble with me and practicing her makeup on my face. That experience bonded us together for life.
Elder sisters are life and love, and here’s why you should be thankful if you’ve got one .
She gives the best advice
Your elder sister knows you better than you know yourself. She grew up watching you, so she knows your strengths and weaknesses better than anyone else. She gives you great advice and checks up on you to know how you’re getting on with your problems. Your elder sister will correct you, but she’ll never judge you or throw your mistakes in your face. She wants as much as you do to right your wrongs and set your paths straight.
She brings cheer and excitement into your life
Your elder sister is the one who’ll teach you the tricks and bits of life. She’s a “been-there-done-that” figure, and life is always more interesting if you’ve got an experienced sister to give you sneak peeks. Things won’t always be perfect, but it’ll be exciting all the same. She shares all her gist with you whenever you two are together, and it’s a different kind of gossip hour than you’ll have with friends or co-workers.
She’s your second mom
Your mom loves you unconditionally, and so does your elder sister. She can’t stay mad at you for long and no matter how far you stray, she’ll always come looking for you. Your elder sister feels a natural sense of responsibility towards you and she’ll lay down her life to save yours without a second thought.
You can always be yourself around your sister
Your sister is one of the few people who you can never have a reason to pretend around. She doesn’t care how bad it is or how terrible it can get. She wants to know the truth about your life because she’ll always support you. She’ll never judge you or belittle you. Your elder sister is that one person who would always believe that you are destined for great things, even when every other person has given up on you.
You can tell her everything
You can tell her all your goals, aspirations, dreams, and desires, and she’ll be there to support and motivate you. She’ll never discourage you but she’ll you give you her honest opinions. Your dirtiest secrets are merely pieces of information to her ears. She may be shocked, she may scream and go ballistic, but a minute later, she’s trying to get all the details and figure out a way forward for you.
She’s the intermediary between you and your parents
Your elder sister is usually the one who will convince your parents to give you some freedom and space. When they don’t agree with your aspirations and goals, she comes in to set things straight. When you’ve messed up, your big sister would take the lead to get everyone else to stay open-minded. When your parents don’t know how to get through to you anymore, they’ll usually call her up to mediate, since she’s that person who you’ll always listen to.
She’ll always forgive you
When siblings are mad at each other, it doesn’t hit the heart. They quarrel, they bicker, they throw mean words, they stay away from each other for months and years, but something will always bring them back together. Your elder sister will always forgive you, no matter how badly you’ve hurt her. She’ll reconcile things and put them behind her because she’s got to take care of you.
She’s your children’s second mom
Your elder sister walks with you through the journey of childbirth, especially when it’s your first time. It’s a lot easier having kids when your big sister is around, even if she doesn’t have kids herself. She’ll protect your kids as though they are hers, and she’ll spoil them silly because that’s what aunts are for. They go behind your back to ask for treats and even tell her things they can’t tell you. She’s like a back-up mom for them.
She knows you too well
Your elder sister is that person who can go shopping for you and buy all the right things. She can take a test about you and score an A-triple-plus. She knows you more than anyone else, even yourself. This is why she understands you extremely well and will always help you in making the best decisions for yourself.
She’ll always have your back
No matter how tough it gets, you can always rely on your big sister to step in and take the wheels. She’ll always be there for you, ready to fight to the death to keep you safe. If everyone else deserts you, your sister will never leave you. Even if blood doesn’t bind you too together, you are hers and she’ll always be yours.
Send a heart emoji to your elder sister today. Let her know she means the world to you.
- “10 Reasons Why People Who Have Big Sisters Are Really Blessed” iHeart Intelligence. August 2019.