A modern classroom today consists of diverse students. There are some with behavioral difficulties, emotional and psychological challenges, and learning disabilities, and as a result, teachers today are juggling many hats, from a counselor, mentor, coach, to a mediator, motivator, and adviser.

That’s why it’s sad when we hear about teachers who are facing increasingly abusive behavior from parents. According to The Guardian, more than a third (39%) of teachers have been confronted by an aggressive parent or guardian, and nearly a quarter of teachers have endured physical violence from a student.

In most cases, parents became aggressive because their child was disciplined in class or received poor grades. A secondary teacher in Bristol, questioned for the survey, said: “Lack of support of teachers by parents is the most disheartening part of this profession and the thing most likely to make me leave it.

Instead of bashing our teachers, we should be communicating appreciation and positive acknowledgments. If parents want to see the educational system improve, they can do their part, which is show teachers the very thing they want their children to learn – respect.

That is not to say that issues will not rise to the surface! If you are indeed having tension with your child’s teacher, here are some ways you can resolve the conflict calmly and proactively!

Remain Calm

Even if you’re feeling some negative feelings toward your child’s teacher, try not to let your child know that.

Listen

To get all perspectives on the matter, ask your children open-ended questions. A child who is venting may need to get their frustration off their chest and sharing their thoughts with you may help him put the situation in perspective.

Brainstorm Solutions

Brainstorm solutions with your child! By letting them give their input, it will provide them with the impression that their thoughts are valued and that any problem can be solved (diplomatically)

Observe Before Confronting

If the conflict is originating from the teacher, don’t schedule a meeting with your child’s teacher…yet. First, get as much information as possible before making any assumptions! While your child’s complaints can be very well valid, you must keep in mind there are different perspectives on a situation.

Speak With The Teacher (after observation)

Converse with the teacher and ask them for input on the situation. Speak about ways that your child and teacher could improve the situation (self-growth is infinite!) Striking up a numbers questions and having an accusatory tone will no doubt set the discussion up for failure.

Connect

Volunteering time and keeping in regular contact with your child’s teacher will gain a better understanding between the both of you and communication will improve!

Show Appreciation

When your child’s teacher does make an extra effort with your child, send them a note or call to express your gratitude!

If Nothing Else Works

If all else fails, meet with the principal. The principal may be able to explain the teacher’s approach and more objectively assess the situation.

Take Away

As a parent, the most distressing thing to hear your child say, is “my teacher is so mean!” However, the most important thing to remember is the majority of teachers are caring, dedicated, and well trained. Also keep in mind, that each teacher has their own style, so instead of taking this in a negative way, try using it as a learning experience for both you and your child. Your child will learn how to adapt, and you will be their pilot in communicating respect and understanding, great qualities that they can carry with them for the rest of their life!